There's Always a First Time

*disclaimer: this is probably a very discombobulated and unintelligable post, therefore, it is my intention to fix it up within the next day or two in order to make it legible at least... in the meantime.... good luck getting through it*

There's always a first time for everything. In every part of human existence, there are those precious times, when, unadulterated by previous events, we experience something new and exciting. While not always positive, these firsts give us a rare chance to approach something new without preconditions, assumptions, or suppositions. What makes such "naive" moments so special? Take relationships as an example. Can you remember back to your first little crush, the first time you ever really cared for someone, or your first kiss? All of these seemed so perfect and innocent at the time. Everything else melted away and was merely background noise, almost to the point of blinding you from reality. It all just seemed so perfect and carefree. Then along come's your first break-up. While this dashed some of those hopes and dreams, it gave you back some of your lost realist view of the world. It showed you that perhaps all the rainbows and sunshine wasn't much of anything except an escape from reality. Then you come to care about someone new. Where is all of the untainted adventurism (is that a word?) that was present before? What happened to that feeling of invincibility? And is it for better or worse? While some first-time experiences serve as guidelines or warnings (such as the above), others seem to serve only as reminiscent memories. While memories such as a loved one's first steps, first words, etc, might seem pointless, they do have a certain encouraging quality to them. Rather than serving as a warning, they serve as something to look forward to, or to look back on with a smile. Watching a loved one walk up on the stage to receive a diploma, or even something as insignificant (in the big scope of things) as getting accepted to their first formal job (Someone's not getting paid for doing yard-work anymore).

So far, I have only examined the positive aspects of first-time experiences. But more than that which has already been stated, first-time experiences provide a much more important perspective for us that stays with us for the rest of our lives. I can guarantee you that I will never look at a relationship the same way again. While this may mean that the innocence that seemed so perfect before has gone away forever, it has made room for a more mature view on the world. It is my opinion that more important lessons are learned from learning from our past experiences and looking back on them as a sort of map of how we should respond to similar situations in the future, than are from studying math, or pouring over chemistry books (although these are also important of course...). So, back to the original question. Is having an experience "tainted" per say, by the actual act of experiencing something good or bad? In a nutshell (this post has dragged on more than originally intended), there is a first time for everything. at worst, every experience is beneficial to your future , and necessary to make wise choices in times to come.